Could You Accept A Mate Back After Getting Cheated On?

I was asked this question, among other women and men who was asked this question. Most of us would like to say hell no I wouldnt take a mate back after cheating. I use to think this way too until it happened to me. I had to sit back and ask myself what part did I play in why he cheated, upon what have I invested into this relationship, if I could let it all go upon this one situation, or stay and try to work it out. Like most women I choose to stay and work it out, but do are men so easy to stay in love and work it out? How many men would really stay with a good woman who messed up just one time by cheating? Could you remain the same loving, honest, loyal person that you was before you found out? To answer my own question, no I didnt remain that woman, I became bitter and had nothing but revenge on my mind. But in time i did change back to the person that I once was, at times I still want the taste of revenge. I would like to know how would you handle these issues?